“hold off, Is it a Date?” Podcast Episode 209: Bottoming with Chingy | Autostraddle

Why don’t we earn some noise your soles in the home! (its me personally, the base in your house.) Bottom heritage has grown to become quite a Thing™ using the internet recently! Exactly what will it truly suggest to be a bottom? Precisely why comes with the culture determined bottoming is actually synonymous with getting scared to ask for just what you prefer? And just how does a person start choosing if they fancy bottoming?!

With these questions rattling around our heads, requiring responses, Drew and I understood there clearly was one individual we’re able to go to for a rounded, enthusiastic dialogue about bottoming: The Gay Chingy AKA Chingy Nea, AKA underneath Supreme. Chingy is amongst the most readily useful men and women i understand composing and tweeting today, so that as a bottom myself personally, Im honored to contact her my personal chief. Chingy helps us tease away what it methods to be a bottom, precisely why she detests “smol bean” bottom tradition, your system as gap, along with your human body as

entire

. Its an extremely beautiful talk, basically perform say so myself! Kindly realize that i realize that I say “gorgeous” approximately three thousand instances this occurrence, and I am looking for help for my condition. (the situation is talking like 57 year old white gay man.)

And! Recently’s game entails me personally guessing if complicated plots Drew defines fit in with a movie or a dream she had circa 2006. It is not easy!


PROGRAM RECORDS

+ Browse Chingy’s
Bottom Manifesto
, follow her
on Twitter
and
IG
!

+Let me reveal a list of all the flicks that Drew found in the woman game:


  • The Seventh Seal

    (1937)

  • Bringing-up Child

    (1938)


  • Pierrot le Fou


    (1965)

  • Dark Swan

    (2010)

+Watch Anna Faris carry out the finest work of the woman profession in

Smiley Face!


+Let

Shohreh Aghdashloo chat one sleep while clothed as Chrisjen


Avasarala


from

The Expanse

as you are entitled to that.


+Cindy Wilson of this B52s is very hot and honestly? “Love Shack” however whips!


+
Robert Mitchum
, stone-cold fox.



EPISODE


Chingy

: i have only been bottoming since I have ended up being, I don’t know, as far back as I can bear in mind.


Drew

: Cue Rags to wealth from

Goodfellas.


Chingy

: As far back as I’m able to keep in mind, I always desired to be a bottom, no, but sort of

[intro plays]


Drew

: Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina

: I Am Christina.


Drew

: Thanks for visiting

Wait, So Is This a romantic date

?


Christina

:

Wait, Is This a romantic date?

is an Autostraddle podcast focused on one, truly the only the largest concern of our occasions: hold off, So is this a Date?


Drew

: And, wow, i must say i just froze upwards there.


Christina

: I found myself like, oh shit, I became meant to state some thing! [laughs]


Drew

: I’m actually quick on the banter, my personal mind only… The truth is that I found myself reading over my personal online game notes, which we aren’t at but because we still need to introduce ourselves. Therefore, I’m going to try to stay focused on one task each time.


Christina

: Focus upwards!


Drew

: i am Drew Gregory, I am an author for Autostraddle, and a filmmaker, and a trans woman.


Christina

: Hi, i’m Christina Tucker, forgot my personal final name for a hot min, no fuss. I’m in addition a writer at Autostraddle and various other locations on the net, a podcaster, a gay black colored lady. That’s form of it, dog, that is myself.


Drew

: I like it. Okay, now we-


Christina

: today the game.


Drew

: are we able to play the game?


Christina

: Can we get right to the video game? I am able to let you know’re thrilled, I can reveal’re just shaking.


Drew

: therefore, i am maintaining a dream journal since 2007, and also the assumption of your online game is-


Christina

: I did not know this in regards to you!


Drew

: Yes, it isn’t as informed now, I familiar with jot down all my personal fantasies nowadays it’s only once anything truly sticks. But, the assumption of this video game is actually, am I explaining the plot of an aspiration I had once I was actually a teenager, or are we explaining the story of a film that we cherished whenever I had been an adolescent?


Christina

: Oh kid, okay.


Drew

: therefore, ways it will get is we’ll usually explain it a dream and also in one individual. Very, when it had been

Superstar Wars,

I’d resemble, I’m in room and I also’m combating within a rebellion, so there’s an evil  guy that is putting on a black colored robot suit plus it turns out he’s my dad. That’s the way I’ll describe it, how we describe fantasies, but often it will likely be an aspiration, often it’ll end up being from a movie. Prepared?


Christina

: I’m some thing, I am not sure that I’m prepared, but why don’t we rock. Let us see just what I can carry out here.


Drew

: Okay, I’m on a beach and I see this weird guy wearing black. He informs me that he’s dying and now we can take advantage of a casino game to choose basically reside or if he requires me. I are able to get away, but almost everywhere I-go, folks are ill and I feel just like Death still is soon after me.The only pleased component happens when We satisfy a theater troupe and they’re lots of fun.


Christina

: This,I think, is an aspiration.


Drew

: this will be Ingmar Bergman’s

The Seventh Seal

from 1957.


Christina

: this is exactly likely to be a real gotcha on CT’s traditional film knowledge, because the things I understand that Drew, inside puberty, wasn’t doing was actually seeing movies that i’ll acknowledge. At this time, i am type of wishing that I have seen do not require. I believe that’ll be more enjoyable for me personally.


Drew

: the 2nd one, i am meeting with my children several Italian United states gangsters. One of several gangsters requires that I provide more than some money, but my family and that I was able to get away. We run away through this all cold landscapes, on the road we meet an actress and relate solely to this lady. We end in a suburb. I think we’re going to start a life collectively until she takes me to a huge mansion, and that I understand it is one of the gangster. It had been all a trap, the gangster arrives and there’s a confrontation. We kill him, the fantasy concludes aided by the celebrity carrying out a musical wide variety.


Christina

: Is this a movie?


Drew

: this will be an aspiration I experienced in 2008.


Christina

: Okay, wow. Boy, yeah, I guess i need to just remember that , it is 2000, its old-school received mind. That’s what I have to bear in mind.


Drew

: additionally love, just what movies had been we viewing during the time and how a lot performed that impact my personal hopes and dreams?


Christina

: Well, yeah, plainly a lot!


Drew

: A fun truth is that I happened to be in fact, i did not consist of this because I thought this could have out, however the gangster ended up being Tony Soprano because I found myself watching

The Sopranos

in 2008. Thus, that’s an enjoyable small reality. Okay, next one, We have an important task, but this hot woman shows up and begins distracting me personally. I would like to end up being together, but In addition need to get could work completed, therefore I inform her to go away. She keeps soon after me personally. Out of the blue, a leopard looks in my space and that I need certainly to spend the remainder of the fantasy attempting to catch the leopard. I am nevertheless really anxious, We never complete could work, but no less than the girl is hot.


Christina

: it has is a dream you have, it’s are a Drew fantasy.


Drew

: This Really Is Howard Hawks’

Discussing Child

from 1938.


Christina

: No, but that is a dream of yours, this is the most Drew fantasy I ever heard. Today at this stage, i am simply gonna be spinning movie record, to match my whims.


Drew

: Great, i really like that. Okay, I’m at an event and I never love any person there. Finally, I see this girl, we once had a crush on and in addition we choose leave collectively. We go to the woman residence, but are chased off from this gang of men that trying to kill the girl. We finish on a beach and it appears like we’re going to be ok up until the guys discover all of us. She ends up getting into this different guy, therefore I just take cartoonish dynamite and determine to strike my self up


Christina

: Film.


Drew

: this really is! This will be Jean Luc Goddard’s

Pierrot le Fou

, from 1965.


Christina

: Have not seen, but that appears like a ding dang motion picture to me.


Drew

: Great, I adore it. There is a narration describing an odd boat like design that’s impossible to wreck. I want on a retreat nearby the framework, the refuge is sort of theater relevant, type of spiritual. I’ve a crush about this girl at the retreat, but she has a boyfriend. Amid the shows and rituals, there are plenty of drama between myself and that woman along with her sweetheart, it concludes beside me by yourself. There’s been a sequence disclosing that the ship construction is actually impractical to wreck because a mechanical supply fixes it in the evening.


Christina

: that might be any such thing in plenty techniques, i’ll state motion picture once more, have you thought to?


Drew

: It is a dream from 2011, that performed have narration from some other person, you are sure that, it happens!


Christina

: this is actually good promo to have an aspiration diary, because I feel want it would be enjoyable basically could remember my personal aspirations this way.


Drew

: No person likes as soon as you explain the aspirations in their eyes. I do however, and I’m your pal, when you want to record the desires and tell me, i might love to hear about them.


Christina

: Okay, that’s really nice to hear.


Drew

: We have two even more.


Christina

: Okay.


Drew

: i am in a beautiful garden with a team of buddies, all of us seem to be getting out of bed from being drugged. We are compelled to bathe in an acid that drains pigment and then we end up being golden-haired and blue-eyed. The people responsible start teaching united states to destroy, as it happens this one is run by a crazy dictator, we resist obtaining entirely brainwashed. Absolutely this woman there i’ve a crush on and that I convince her to escape with me, while leaking out I have shot and killed, nevertheless lady gets out. When she makes the prison, she realizes we are in the middle of a forest so there’s nowhere commit.


Christina

: Film.


Drew

: that might be 1st dream in my own fantasy diary from, I stated, “2007.” Is in reality 2006.


Christina

: Wow.


Drew

: i thought it actually was interesting that we perish in fantasy, however the other person continues on. The good news is, there’s some odd gender stuff happening truth be told there, and I’m going to need certainly to think of this 1 for a while.


Christina

: undoubtedly accomplish that.


Drew

: Okay, I have another.


Christina

: Okay.


Drew

: i am considering the opportunity to end up being a dancer, my mom claims I won’t be able to take action. Absolutely this different woman when you look at the program whom i do believe is actually hot, but i am nervous she’s going to replace me personally. I am battling in rehearsal, but end up leaving with all the woman, we get together. This really is hot, but I feel my self losing control, we get back to the party show. My body system is apparently morphing into another thing, i am stressed that i’ll damage.


Christina

: this is exactly a movie.


Drew

: Therefore,

Dark Swan

.


Christina

: Yes, which

Dark Swan

, undoubtedly.


Drew

: perhaps you have observed

Dark Swan

? Which was one I imagined you have viewed.


Christina

: I have come across

Dark Swan

, I… Fun fact, I went on a date with one to see

Dark Swan

.


Drew

: Wow.


Christina

: only straight situations i did so.


Drew

: that was that like?


Christina

: Weird, it actually was unusual.


Drew

: Did you like film? Performed the guy like movie?


Christina

: In my opinion, I experienced already seen it, i believe I was similar, “let us get see it again.” I think, I was very pro

Black Swan,

as well as right heterosexual factors, definitely.


Drew

: Sure, okay.


Christina

: And, he was like, “That was odd.” And I ended up being like, “Oh well, we’re not browsing continue to date.”


Drew

: Wow, well I wish him top, i really hope he’s someplace doing well. Thanks for playing the game with me.


Christina

: Wow, i am therefore glad I went two for however many we did on that.


Drew

: Not awful.


Christina

: Not bad.


Drew

: You did much better than Elise did while I wished to find out if this was an operating video game which could operate, and she had been my guinea-pig. Therefore, she merely had gotten one correct.


Christina

: Fair enough.


Drew

: Should we move on to the main topic with the week?


Christina

: Let’s enter into it, let’s fully grasp this unique visitor in.


Drew

: Well, I want to 1st point out that our major subject from the week is actually bottoming, so we could simply have one really unique visitor.


Christina

: It is one person.


Drew

: Can you please present yourself?


Chingy

: Hi, I’m Chingy Nea, also referred to as The Gay Chingy. I will be an author, Filmmaker, and gasian leather dyke muppet. I will be in addition The usa’s no. 1 base.


Christina

: Yes, I think once we happened to be speaking about topics and in addition we’re like, “we can easily talk about bottoming there’s virtually singular person we can easily have regarding pod to achieve this, there’s only one person who is very actually the Supreme.”


Chingy

: Thank you for acknowledging, it feels good to have the greatness recognized, thanks a lot


Christina

: Yes, therefore’ve accomplished fantastic work, and here the audience is knowing it.


Drew

: I want to understand whenever you feel you became America’s greatest bottom. Whenever was actually that a word and a label and an identity which you actually presented onto?


Chingy

: Well, and so I normally only say, “I’m the base Supreme.” Because, just who cares about The united states?


Drew

: Sure.


Christina

: Fair adequate.


Chingy

: Yeah, I think that i was proficient at bottoming, then again in 2017 or something like that, I visited a play celebration that was simply for fem leading sadists defeating me personally up for six to seven many hours straight, and it was just myself, and I also was actually like, “Oh, i am the best that’s previously already been.” Immediately after which, I think from that point, I just held increasing being, wow, I’m therefore fun to look at. Wow, I’m therefore interesting as a bottom, this can be wow, everyone exactly who reaches peak me personally is really fortunate. And, it really went following that, I think, and then we blogged an article known as I’m a better Bottom versus You. Here’s Precisely Why. It actually was style of a manifesto, it had been a bottom manifesto.

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Christina

: certainly, can confirm.


Chingy

: And, many people have actually said, “its altered the way they check sex.” And, i prefer that a lot. This is the one post to my website that I created truth be told there. I’ve authored at

Vice

,

Teenage Vogue

,

Vulture

—

Autostraddle

ended up being the very first destination we had written, actually. But yeah, this is the one web log back at my site, if you’d like to take a visit.


Christina

: I favor a solid brand, i really like once you understand a brandname, and that I think’s actually gorgeous, just, brand management of your own bottomy yourself. In my opinion, that is really beautiful to see.


Chingy

: many thanks, I managed to get my very first authorship possibility at

Autostraddle

because I became authoring becoming a bottom, and being poly, being truly deep into becoming a fabric dyke. And because subsequently, I started to write about a lot of other activities, but getting bottom part great only variety of could be the one through distinctive line of every thing.


Christina

: Yes.


Drew

: In addition feel just like you are an extremely productive bottom and in addition in how you talk about, and explore, and that I think knowledge bottoming that you are extremely active. While, I think there are plenty of the queer area, perhaps, especially the lesbian neighborhood, that perhaps thinks of bottoming as… I am not sure-


Chingy:

Passivity

.


Christina

: Mm-hmm

(Affirmative)

.


Drew

: Yeah.


Chingy

: Yeah, we usually claim that there is a lot less soles than people believe tend to be bottoms. I do believe there’s a positive change between getting a bottom and simply being unsure of or seeking what you would like. In my opinion those are a couple of entirely various things that folks conflate.


Christina

: I would need to concur, I additionally believe the way that you mention bottoming is, after all, let’s merely state it, such significantly less frustrating compared to means so many people speak about getting a bottom or recognize with bottom society. Because, I do believe exactly what many say clearly or non clearly is simply, i will be lazy plus don’t proper care doing any type of activity, activity, et-cetera, i would really like circumstances completed to me. And, if I need to seek that in in whatever way, that hurts my emotions. And, you happen to be so good therefore strong at being, these are the items that i would like, bring these to me personally and that I will rock and roll your own globe. Definitely attractive in my opinion.


Chingy

: many thanks, i am talking about, that’s what you have to do become good at just some thing, you must put yourself on the market and check out and work out blunders and obtain damage a little bit, and, I’m not sure, study on it.


Christina

: i do believe that’s an effective message, frankly.


Chingy

: I’ve merely been bottoming since I was actually, I don’t know, dating back i will bear in mind. [laughs]


Drew

: Cue “Rags to wealth” from

Goodfellas

.


Chingy

: Yeah, dating back to I can bear in mind, I always wished to be a bottom. No, but variety of, once I was actually 13 or 14, I was currently considering SADO MASO web sites and lesbian BDSM sites. So, I found myselfn’t under any delusions regarding what I happened to be pertaining to, I found myself having ladies I dated in senior school choke myself , we knew the things I wished. And, that amount of understanding has just provided me a number of years to understand what Needs and figure out how to get it.


Christina

: Beautiful, Drew, offer me personally your emotions on bottoming.


Drew

: Well, i am actually truly excited to talk about this simply because I feel like in 2019 {when I|as I|while

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